Top 100 Inspirational Quotes

1. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill
2. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. –Steve Jobs
3. Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein
4. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.  –Robert Frost
5. The common question that gets asked in business is, ‘why?’ That’s a good question, but an equally valid question is, ‘why not?’ -Jeffrey Bezos
6. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky
7. I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan
8. Every strike brings me closer to the next home run. –Babe Ruth
9. Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone
10. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon
11. We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale
12. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain
13. Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –John Maxwell
14. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. –Tony Robbins
15. The mind is everything. What you think you become.  –Buddha
16. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. –Chinese Proverb
17. An unexamined life is not worth living. –Socrates
18. Eighty percent of success is showing up. –Woody Allen
19. Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. –Napoleon Hill
20. Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is. –Vince Lombardi
21. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. –Stephen Covey
22. Every child is an artist.  The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. –Pablo Picasso
23. You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. –Christopher Columbus
24. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou
25. Either you run the day, or the day runs you. –Jim Rohn
26. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. –Henry Ford
27. The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain
28. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
29. The best revenge is massive success. –Frank Sinatra
30. People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing.  That’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar
31. Inspiration exists, but it must find you working. –Pablo Picasso
32. If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. –Vincent Van Gogh
33. There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. –Aristotle
34. Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal. –Henry Ford
35. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
36. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.  Live the life you have imagined. –Henry David Thoreau
37. When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me. –Erma Bombeck
38. Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others.  Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?” – Brian Tracy
39. Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
40. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt
41. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair
42. We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. –Plato
43. Once you choose hope, anything’s possible. –Christopher Reeve
44. Start where you are. Use what you have.  Do what you can. –Arthur Ashe
45. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wrote down ‘happy’.  They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon
46. Fall seven times and stand up eight. –Japanese Proverb
47. When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. –Helen Keller
48. Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see. –Confucious
49. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. –Anne Frank
50. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. –Lao Tzu
51. The difference between a successful person and others is not lack of strength not a lack of knowledge but rather a lack of will. –Vince Lombardi
52. Happiness is not something readymade.  It comes from your own actions. –Dalai Lama
53. The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible. –Arthur C. Clarke
54. First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end. –Aristotle
55. If the wind will not serve, take to the oars. –Latin Proverb
56. You can’t fall if you don’t climb.  But there’s no joy in living your whole life on the ground. –Unknown
57. Whoever loves much, performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well. –Vincent Van Gogh
58. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. –Les Brown
59. Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. –Joshua J. Marine
60. The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. –Walt Disney
61. I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. –Leonardo da Vinci
62. Limitations live only in our minds.  But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. –Jamie Paolinetti
63. Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes.  You are free. –Jim Morrison
64. What’s money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do. –Bob Dylan
65. I didn’t fail the test. I just found 100 ways to do it wrong. –Benjamin Franklin
66. In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. –Bill Cosby
67. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein
68. The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it. –Chinese Proverb
69. There are no traffic jams along the extra mile. –Roger Staubach
70. It is never too late to be what you might have been. –George Eliot
71. You become what you believe. –Oprah Winfrey
72. I would rather die of passion than of boredom. –Vincent van Gogh
73. A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. –Unknown
74. It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.  –Ann Landers
75. If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. –Abigail Van Buren
76. Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs. –Farrah Gray
77. Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible. –Frank Zappa
78. Education costs money.  But then so does ignorance. –Sir Claus Moser
79. Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more. –H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
80. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. –Confucius
81. Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others. –H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
82. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. –Dalai Lama
83. You can’t use up creativity.  The more you use, the more you have. –Maya Angelou
84. Dream big and dare to fail. –Norman Vaughan
85. Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. –Martin Luther King Jr.
86. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have. –Teddy Roosevelt
87. The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. –Alice Walker
88. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning. –Gloria Steinem
89. It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live. –Mae Jemison
90. You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try. –Beverly Sills
91. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. –Eleanor Roosevelt
92. Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be. –Grandma Moses
93. The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. –Ayn Rand
94. When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. –Henry Ford
95. It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. –Abraham Lincoln
96. Change your thoughts and you change your world. –Norman Vincent Peale
97. Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing. –Benjamin Franklin
98. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, “I’m possible!” –Audrey Hepburn
99. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. –Steve Jobs
100. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. –Zig Ziglar

Source:http://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2013/05/28/inspirational-quotes/

Gift Ideas for Moms

For some, the essence of woman is when she gave birth. But it’s not only about giving birth but motherhood. Motherhood is the most difficult thing I have ever experience and still is. It’s not like as easy as getting a doctoral degree or getting that Ms. Universe title. Motherhood is not about getting enrolled, memorizing, defending that thesis or having that tsunami or cobra walk. It is from womb to tomb as the saying goes.  Since Mother’s day is getting near, let’s give our moms that day extra special. Below are gift ideas for moms you can choose from.

1.       A day of relaxation – and because mom is always there whenever you need her, surprising her with a massage and spa treat is but sweet way of giving back for all that TLC she has been giving your family.

2.       Sweet Scent – as most mom are busy making your house a home it would be sweet  to give her a perfume, a gesture that you will always love that motherly scent she have.

3.       Go Green – moms are our source of life, giving her a beautiful bonsai or a fortune plant will give her a relief for the busy day she always had.

4.       A bar of chocolates – as much as kids love chocolates and so moms are, for this day let her indulge and let that chocolates melt in her mouth.

5.       Scenery at home – a painting that details moms love would be great for her as it will remind her unfailing love for that place you call home sweet home.

6.       Goody basket – a basket of goodies is simple yet also perfect gift for moms, prepare it yourself, add in that basket her favorite food, foods are enjoyed best when shared with loved ones, this will not only benefits your moms stomach but also yours.

7.       Hair Rebond – a hair make-over would make your mom reminded how beautiful she is as an individual, a nail art would complete that treat – let that caring hands be pampered!

8.       Yoga DVD – remind mom that above all she needs to take care of herself first, give her that gorgeous yoga wear and mat that would be the envy of other moms out there.

9.       Mom’s Card – if you have the hand of painter, paint your love for her, the more it is personalize and customized the more that it will be appealing to her.

10.   Flower, Flower - a bouquet of flower is not just for lovers but for moms too. Moms are like flowers, when showered with water they bloom and are most beautiful.

True, that above all material things it is also love that you can give your mom but why not make your mom’s day extra special with the above mentioned gift ideas for moms.

How to Stay Healthy and Fit

Women play a vital role not only in the home but also in our society in general. Women should recognize the unique dualistic capabilities they have. It should be that in order to care for others, you need to take good care of yourself. There are different healthy tips for women; all you need to do is take time to care for yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Below are practical healthy tips for women, be determined, you can do them.

1.         Start slow - be realistic and smart, a healthy diet does not happen overnight. Start with small things like having a vegetable salad to your diet or use an sesame oil when cooking instead of using butter. Make these small changes a habit, and look forward for a total change to a healthier you.

2.       Nourish your bones – as women age, they become prone to bone density loss. Avoid eating too much animal protein as they are acidic which forces our body to deplete calcium reserves as buffer.

3.       Iron your body – of course I don’t mean it literally! It is crucial among women to have that recommended iron especially for those who are pregnant or has been pregnant. If you feel the following symptoms: sensitivity to colds, fatigue, headache and depression then it’s time for you to indulge in plant based diet full of iron-rich foods. Good sources are leafy greens, chard, kale, spinach, lentils, sesame seeds, pumpkin seeds and navy beans.

4.       Start a healthy habit – be very specific, make your intentions clear, for instance go on a nine-block brisk walk every morning instead of exercise more often.

5.       Check your breast regularly – protect yourself against breast cancer. This healthy tip for women is very common yet it is sad to note that many women died for breast cancer. Feel your body regularly to recognize sudden changes.

6.       Get your orgasm – this may sound funny but mind you this healthy tip for women is one of the few free things you can avail and enjoy. Orgasm release hormones that boost emotional well-being and immune system and may even extend life.

7.       Plan your future - young women are mostly healthy in their current situation. The problem arises as where their lifestyle will lead them as they age. Invest now, make the change now, live a healthy lifestyle and more importantly eat to nourish your body.

8.       Be happy – avoid a person who makes you feel miserable. If your relationship is a huge head-ache, drop that bad boy!

9.       Be smart – Sharpen your mind, read something exciting, do a puzzle and make it a habit to read only happy thoughts.

10.   Buy yourself a shoes – go on platform heels, stilettos put too much pressure on the balls of your feet which may lead to bunions- not a healthy one.

The universe was never complete without the existence of a woman; the healthy tips for women above could be helpful so that the woman species on earth will remained in existence throughout time.

Healthy Eating Tips

The key to healthy eating is balance, variety and moderation. This means eating a wide variety of foods without too much calorie intake and too much nutrients. Varied healthy eating tips are all over the net but these healthy eating tips detailed below allows you to enjoy the foods you love without over eating.

1.       Eat in variety – good health requires more than 40 different nutrients in which no single food can supply them all. This healthy eating tip number one means including whole grain products, fruits, vegetables, dairy, meat, poultry and other protein foods in your diet.

2.       Eat in moderation – it is easy to eat the foods you want and stay healthy if you just eat a reasonable portion of it, for instance three ounces of cooked meat and one medium size of fruit.

3.       Eat on time – avoid overeating, do not skip meals for it will only lead to out-of-control hunger. When you are very hungry you tend to forget about good nutrition.

4.       Be aware of your diet pitfalls – do not underestimate this healthy eating tip, it is a must that you know first what is wrong with your eating habit before you can improve it. If you add to much butter or creamy sauces, rather than eliminating them, just minimize it at first.

5.       It’s how you eat- eating healthy is not only about the food in your plate but also about how you think about the food. Think your food as nourishment of your body and not just as something to gulp down.

6.       Rainbow of fruits and vegetables – fruits and vegetables are foundation of a healthy diet, they are packed with vitamins, minerals, antioxidants and fiber which is needed by our body.

7.       Indulge on healthy fats –nourish your brain, heart, cells and your hair with healthy fat. Food rich in omega-3 are important and are believed to reduce cardiovascular disease, improves mood and helps prevent dementia.

8.       Avoid unhealthy carbs – unhealthy carbs such as white flour, refined sugar and white rice do not have much, fiber and nutrients, these foods digest quickly and cause spikes in blood sugar level and energy.

9.       Avoid sugary foods – be aware of the disguise term for sugar in food label such as maple sugar, corn syrup, molasses, dextrose, glucose, maltose, or sucrose among others. A 12 ounces of soda has about 10 teaspoons of sugar in it which is more than the daily recommended limit.

10.   Hydrate your body – this healthy eating tip number 10 is often the most neglected part of healthy eating habit. Drinking eight glasses of water a day does not only helps proper digestion but your free ticket to losing weight. Drinking a glass of water before meal and sipping every after much will make you feel full without depriving yourself with that food you think you cannot live without!

The above mentioned healthy eating tips are just few of the many tips you can read on different blogs but if followed will help you become healthy and something that you will be proud of to model.

What Really Motivate's People?

...and who said money is not one of the BEST motivator for any great result...?

Linear Income Vs. Residual Income – Which one do you belong

Linear income is an income where almost everyone of you belong. There's nothing wrong wit it actually, its just that for an 8 hour job you are only paid once, right? The next day if your not going to work then your pay check may have one day lesser. This income I am referring to is your salary income. You are only paid once for your effort. If you don't show up for work, neither does your pay check. Would you not be excited if you will be paid or compensated a hundred times for an hour of work. Of course everyone of us does. So why not start creating a residual income in your free time? But wait what is residual income? residual income, according to Robert Allen, a multi millionaire, is a fancy term for a "recurring" stream of income that continues to flow whether you're there or not.

The secret of the wealthy is not that they have more money but that they have more time freedom. Many of their streams of income are residual, so they have time to spend on anything they want. You may think and appear to be reach because you're a doctor, lawyer or sales people but you are not. A doctor has to see a fixed number of patients a day. And he has to be there for every single one of them. A doctors income is therefore linear. The same with lawyers, sales persons. If you're smart you will start shifting your income streams from linear to residual. So, start by turning at least one new residual stream ...

The Truth Behind How Women Think!

Women are extremely difficult to understand and there will never be a single man that will tell you how she thinks. If you see it through a woman's point-of-view, however, you will be able to understand a little bit how a woman thinks. Men will never fully understand how a woman thinks because, in all honesty, women are all different. But, in general, women do tend to think about some things in a common way.

Style – If you want to make a good impression on women, dress in an appropriate style. To her it is a positive impression. Your style is always important to her and that this thing, she’ll always remember too.

Smile – Your smile matters. When you decide to give her a smile, make sure it’s your greatest. This will be one of those first impression factors. Your great smile can go a long way. Make her also notice other great things about you because it’s not only your smile that will all matter as you go along the way.

Personality - Every woman will look at a man’s personality as one huge factor in every relationship. Your relationship will be gauge either it will work or not in the end. For most women, physical attractiveness will always come second to personality.

Awkwardness – Always make sure awkwardness is at low level because women hate awkwardness! It is the worst thing that a man could do while talking to a woman. It’s no use talking to someone if it's just going to be awkward especially to women.

Attention – One of the most important things to women is attention. It is the most wanted thing to a woman. Women absolutely love attention. No matter what the guy or what the attention is - any attention is good. Even if she says she doesn't like the attention, she is just bluffing. Every woman loves attention, why not give it to her.

Jealousy – Most women would claim that they aren't get jealous when in fact they do. The truth is - they hide their jealousy better than others. Any woman would get jealous knowing that her partner is with other women around, who wouldn't anyways. All women get jealous; it’s that they are good in hiding it.

Gifts for No Reason – All women love to receive gifts. She’ll love and appreciate it even more if you’ll give her a gift for no reason at all. She will simply love it no matter how small it would be. For her, it’s the thought that will always count.

What is Acne?

Human skin, especially on the face, neck, back, and chest is covered in hundreds of thousands of microscopic hair follicles, often called pores.For reasons no one completely understands, these follicles sometimes overproduce cells and become blocked. Sebum (oil) which normally drains to the surface gets trapped and a bacterium begins to grow. All acne lesions start out as a microcomedone.

Normal dollicle                       

         microcomedone                        

There are two main types of acne

1. Non- inflammatory acne -- Microcomedones can spontaneously become unplugged and heal or they become non-inflamed skin blemishes called comedones--either a whitehead or a blackhead.

Whitehead- When the trapped sebum and bacteria stay below the skin surface, whitehead is formed. Whiteheads may show up as tiny white spots, or they may be so small that they are invisible to the naked eye.

Blackhead - A blackhead occurs when the pore opens to the surface, and the sebum, which the skin pigment melanin, oxidizes

and turns a brown/black color. It is not dirt and cannot be washed away. Blackheads can last for a long time because the contents very slowly drain to the surface.

2. Inflammatory acne - A blackhead or whitehead can release its contents to the surface and heal. Or, the follicle wall can rupture and inflammatory acne can ensue. This rupture can be caused by random occurrence or by picking or touching the skin. This is why it is important to leave acne prone skin relatively untouched

Papule - Papule occurs when there is a break in the follicular wall. White blood cells rush in and the pore becomes inflamed.

Pastule - A pustule forms several days later when white blood cells make their way to the surface of the skin. This is what people usually refer to as a "zit" or a "pimple".

A papule or pustule can completely collapse or explode, severely inflaming the surrounding skin, and may engulf neighboring follicles. These lesions are called cysts or nodules:

Cyst - Sometimes a severe inflammatory reaction can result in very large pus filled lesions

Nodule - When a follicle breaks along the bottom, total collapse can occur, causing a large, inflamed bump that can be sore to the touch.

Severe Forms of Acne

The following severe forms of acne are rare, but they inflict great hardship to the people who experience them.

Acne Conglobata - This is the most severe form of acne vulgaris and is more common in males. It is characterized by numerous large lesions, which are sometimes interconnected, along with widespread blackheads. It can cause severe, irrevocable damage to the skin, and disfiguring scarring. It is found on the face, chest, back, buttocks, upper arms, and thighs. The age of onset for acne conglobata is usually between 18 to 30 years, and the condition can stay active for many years. As with all forms of acne, the cause of acne conglobata is unknown. Treatment usually includes isotretinoin (Accutane), and although acne conglobata is sometimes resistant to treatment, it can often be controlled through aggressive treatment over time.

Acne Fulminans - This is an abrupt onset of acne conglobata-like symptoms which normally afflicts young Caucasian men.14-16 Symptoms of severe nodulocystic, often ulcerating acne are apparent. As with acne conglobata, extreme, disfiguring scarring is common. Acne fulminans is unique in that it also includes a fever and aching of the joints.15 Hospitalization of 3-5 weeks is typical for treatment.16 Acne fulminans does not respond well to antibiotics. Isotretinoin (Accutane) and oral steroids are normally prescribed.

Gram-Negative Folliculitis - This condition is a bacterial infection characterized by pustules and cysts, possibly occurring as a complication resulting from a long term antibiotic treatment of acne vulgaris.14 It is a rare condition, and we do not know if it is more common in males or females at this time. Fortunately, isotretinoin (Accutane) is often effective in combating gram-negative folliculitis.

Pyoderma Faciale (Rosacea Fulminans) - This type of severe facial acne affects only females, usually between the ages of 20 to 40 years old, and is characterized by large painful nodules, pustules, and sores, all of which may scar.14-15,17 It begins abruptly, and may occur on the skin of a woman who has never had acne before.15-17 It is confined to the face, and usually does not last longer than one year, but can wreak havoc in a very short time. Doctors often prescribe isotretinoin (Accutane) as well as systemic corticosteroids.

  

  

   

Rose May

Reminisce I do, T'was 10 years ago when God gave you
Mixed emotion I felt when I open my eyes and saw you
Time flew fast and so you grew......
With flying colors you're ready to go....

Onward you go!
Carefree you pave the way
Learning came your way
Reading and counting came so easy

Soaring, you let the eagle  fly in you
Refusing to be average, you let your heart soar high as  it will
With so much fun because friends and love are just around....
With your feet on the ground, you continue to climb up and be on top.

Eager! You continually rise every morning
With the spirit you had known in your childhood

That spirit of eagerness...

Shove your way to a greater success!

Motivated, you keep your dreams alive

Set yourself  a goal, think of the future

Making certain of what you want from moment to moment

To the crossroads, you felt cool

Alive and kicking, had seen things and said why

Dreamed things that never were and said why not?

With so much hope, braver, stronger and smarter than before

Right things will have just to come overflowing

You may not be perfect to anybody

To us, you will always be

A little girl who always makes us happy 

We love  You Rose May

With So Much Love......................

Mommy

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7 Words To Inspire Your Children

Growing a child is one of the most challenging roles a parent has to play. It does not stop on giving the right education but more importantly growing him the best of himself.
Communication is one key to growing a responsible child. In growing the best possible version of your child, the right choice of words and phrases is crucial. Common words and phrases no matter how well-intended can be emotionally and psychologically damaging. Young brains are still developing in their teen years. Do not expect your kids to process words, context, and nuance as the adult brains.
Some parents may think that what they say to their children seems harmless or even constructive on the surface, but, to experts, they hurt than help.

Her are seven common phrases and their alternative that will help build character and get your message across in a better way.

1. You say "You are the best!" They hear "You're job in life is to make me happy." Better say it "You should be proud of your hard work."
According to Social Psychologist Carol Dweck, PhD who tested the effects of over praise on 400 Year Five students in Columbia University, kids praised for "trying hard" did better on tests and were likely to take on difficult assignments than those lauded for being "smart."
"Praising attributes or abilities makes a false promise that success will come to you because you have that trait, and it devalues effort, so children are afraid to take on challenges", says Dweck. "They figure they'd better quit while ahead."
Too much praise can back fire. Talk the overall effort of your child than besting all her classmates in English, in this way he won't think that you only love him when he got the highest score or achieve the most.

2. You say "We can't afford that!" They hear "Money is the answer to everything."
Better say it "The store is filled with great things today, but we've lost at home already and we've not going to bring home anything more."
You want your children to have the sense of abundance until the age of five-not in material way, but in the sense that what you do have brings joy", says Marcy Axness, PhD, a child development specialist and founder of quantumparenting.com.
Inculcate in your little ones mind that money is not the source of all things good in life. Be very careful in saying how he can't have something because you can't afford it. Better sit-down and worked out together that he can have it by saving a small part from his allowance.
3. You say "Don't worry - it'll be OK!" They hear "You're such a drama queen!"
Better say it "I totally understand what you must have gone through. Tell me about it"
Kids need to learn how to express feelings, work through them and move on, as opposed to trying to make them go away without expression," says Panaccione. If children feel that they shouldn't have feelings or that their feelings are bad, they'll start to lock them inside and fail to adopt healthy coping strategies, she says. It's natural for parents to console a disappointed child for not winning a medal in a declamation contest. Give him the nudge they need to deal with situations on their own by asking questions "Why do you think this happened?", "Do you have any ideas about what you can do to make it better?" You can give comfort by listening than by talking. Don't resonate with your child's mood.
4. You say "Don't talk to strangers." They hear "Anyone you don't know is trying to hurt you." Better say it "Don't talk to people who make you feel uncomfortable."
One cannot stop his child to talk to the bus driver in paying for his fare nor to a pharmacist when buying a medicine. There were cases wherein children are victimized by people they know well. Thus it makes sense to tell children not to talk to anyone, acquaintance, or stranger, who makes them feel uncomfortable.
5. You say "Make sure you share." They hear "Give away your stuff." Better say it "Rose would you like to play with your doll for a while, but it's still yours and she will give it back."
"Young kids don't distinguish clearly between themselves and the objects they own or cherish, like their teddy bear or favorite toy train," says psychologist David Elkind, PhD. So in effect you're asking them to give away part of themselves."
Don't force your child to relinquish ownership. You may label your child's toy with his name before prying it out of his hands.
6. You say "Why did you failed in your test, why did you hit your sister, etc.?" They hear "You messed up again." Better say it "My guess is that you failed because you did not study, but that's still not OK."
Don’t be a directive in disguise by saying "Don't you think you should put on your jacket so you won't feel cold", this approach may solve short term headache but creates a long term problem. Don't shame your child into confession. When your child "messed up" take this as an opportunity to start a productive dialog.

Sevivon, Sov, Sov, Sov

My husband uploaded another video of our first born yesterday after quite sometime. We just realized that her piece above has already reached 9000 hits in youtube and still counting. Out of curiosity I open the link once more to confirm the said number of hits. I watched it one more time. As I was watching the video I couldn't resist  to reminisce starting from the moment I had this young lady in my tummy. All the "firsts"  experiences I have as a mother. With the circumstances that she is battling now,  I don't know if it is fair or even make sense to anyone but all I want is turned back time to this very moment where she looked so innocent, very obedient, simply playing the piece without even thinking it will reach 9000 hits and just ended  it with a smile. A genuine smile that is. As a mom seeing a genuine smile in her face is an assurance that she is okay, she is fine, all is well and that there is nothing to be worried about.

But life is not turning back, it is moving forward. As time passed by we are happy she is coping and heading forward. Life is a paradox and that there are circumstances beyond our control. The most important thing was that we were able to erase in her mind all the negative things and feelings that disturbed her a lot. 

As we move forward, I know her dad will capture another vivid and pleasant smile and will be excited to upload it as much as I am willing to relate a story of that captured moment. We don't know when that be but with a strong belief and with a burning desire we, as a family, believe it will happen with the help of God Almighty.